Enter From the Rear

Anal Sex Tips for Beginners

It's not often that you hear about a girl who just loves anal sex. In fact, most of my brave friends who have experimented in this delicate act of carnal creativity have sworn never to repeat the awful experiences they had. Me, I was all set to join their ranks without even trying it out. I used to spend a good deal of time teasing a male friend about his own anal fantasies, wondering how anyone could find pleasure in something that sounds so painful.

Then I foolishly fell in love with an anal afficianado. Refusing to even try would have been a deal-breaker, and so I put on a brave face and announced that I was ready for a new adventure. It was, indeed, an adventure, but I was pleasantly surprised to discover that contrary to what I'd been told, the entire event turned out to be more arousing than awful.

If you're feeling as ready as you'll ever be to begin exploring all things rear related, don't be shy. Read on for some tips that will help you make your first attempt at anal exploration a journey you'll be eager to repeat.

Relaxation is Key

We've all heard the snide comments about what a certain uptight person might have up their butt, but the truth is that if you're feeling anxious, the last thing you need is someone poking around up there! When you're ready to begin your anal adventures, don't jump right in. Make sure that both you and your partner in crime have enjoyed plenty of foreplay. Consider relaxing with a sexy bubble bath or fun, erotic game. Take your time exploring each other's bodies, ensuring that pleasure is the only thing on your mind.

Anal Lube, Lovely Lube

Once you're ready to begin your adventures, the most important thing to have on hand is lube. If you want to feel every sensation, an all-purpose lubricant like Ultra Lube will suffice. Astroglide is also popular for sexploration since it's petroleum free and won't leave you feeling sticky the way some lubes do. If, however, you feel

somewhat wary about what you're about to do, an anal lubricant may very well help to alleviate your physical and mental discomfort. These lubes are specially designed to desensitize the nerve endings back there so that you'll feel nothing but pleasure. You can even find them in different scents, like cinnamon, and a variety of fruity flavors. With a comfortable amount of lube in place, you have even more reason to relax and enjoy your experience.

Start with Smaller Anal Toys

No matter what your eager lover says, you don't have to begin experimenting with something as large as his penis. There are several toys on the market that can ease you into anal play without overwhelming you. I tend to recommend these adult toys over the use of a well-lubed finger simply because they're much smoother and better designed to conform to your body. You can even experiment on your own or with your private collection of sexual products so that you have a better idea of what feels good when you start playing with your partner. A small set of anal beads or a narrow vibrator are wonderful for helping you gear up for the pleasure your lover's penis can offer.

Perfecting Your Anal Sex Skills

Once you've had the opportunity to experience how wonderfully pleasurable anal sex can be, I'm sure you'll be eager to learn more. Books like The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women (also available as an instructional DVD) can give you further insight into how to get even more intense pleasure from your experiments. Whether your anal exploits turn into an occasional treat for your partner or a regular part of your intimate relations, the key is to approach every encounter with an open mind and a willingness to have fun. You'll be pleasantly surprised at just how satisfying rear end action can be!

Bondage and Discipline

Turning Your Fantasy Into Reality

Studies have shown that up to 50% of all men have fantasies about sex involving bondage and discipline (B&D). Similar numbers have come up for women's fantasies, placing the fantasy of being restrained or otherwise controlled during sex second place only to the very basic fantasy of sex itself. This means that if you've always wanted to introduce some elements of bondage into your own sex life, you're in good company!

Of course, mentioning your fantasies to your partner can still be a nerve-wracking task. As with all sexually- and emotionally-charged conversations, it's usually best to have The Talk at a neutral time. Bringing it up just before or just after making love (or worse, during) could make your lover feel turned off, insecure, or pressured. Instead, introduce a discussion of your fantasies at a time when you're both relaxed and unemotional. If you still feel hesitant, a game like Exploring Ultimate Fantasies can help get you and your partner talking about B&D in a creative way. As long as you broach the subject in a respectful manner, showing concern for your lover's feelings as well as your own passions, you're likely to receive a positive response. You may even discover that he or she has been fantasizing about the same thing!

If you don't have a partner at the time, you can still begin exploring the world of B&D/S&M by yourself. Using adult personal ads or fetish clubs (both of which are easily found online), you can connect with others who have made bondage a part of their lives -- either as a weekend hobby or as an entire lifestyle. Even doing something as simple as reading books and articles on B&D can get you prepared to safely experiment with real-life interactions.

Finding Your Comfort Zone

Before you begin, it's important to find a partner who you trust. Someone who practices bondage and discipline in a structured environment like an adult dungeon or fetish club is likely to know and follow the code of safety, otherwise known as SSC (standing for safe, sane, and consentual). Prior to engaging in any sexual behavior, you will sit down with this person, discuss your boundaries and desires, and establish precautionary measures should things become too much for either of you. Even if you're experimenting with a long-term and trusted lover, it's critical to share your expectations with one another and come up with a safe word to use in the event that the action becomes too intense. Because so much of B&D involves role-playing as a victim and perpetrator, words like "stop" and "no" may be mistaken for part of the game and not taken seriously. Together, you and your partner can invent a word or phrase that will catch your attention and immediately put a stop to the undesireable action.

Bondage Equipment for Beginners

Once you and your partner have agreed to explore bondage within your relationship, you'll need to decide what kind of toys will help to make the most of your experience. I would recommend starting out with some of the most basic pieces; there's a tremendous variety of bondage toys on the market and you don't want to become overwhelmed before you even get started!

Some of your options include handcuffs, blindfolds, restraints, and feather ticklers. Used alone, each of these erotic toys can supercharge your sex life. Use more than one in the same session and expect even more powerful results.

To get things off to a bold start, consider purchasing a bondage supply kit. That will give you a chance to experiment with some of the most popular B&D toys, without costing you an arm and a leg. By the time you've played with a beginner's bondage kit, you and your lover will be able to talk about what worked and what didn't. You may well love everything you try, but certain implements will likely stand out as your favorites. A basic kit can help you decide what items are worth splurging on for next time.

Ready, Set, Go!

When you're just beginning to make bondage a part of your sexual routine, it's a good idea for lovers to take turns being in control. After you've had a chance to cuff your lover to the bed, cover his or her eyes with a love mask, and treat your partner to an erotic sensory experience heightened by the thrill of anticipation, you won't mind changing places for a few thrills of your own.

Be safe, and have fun!

Latex is for Lovers

Taking Fetish Fashion to the Extreme

In the new movie, Underworld: Evolutions, the stunning Kate Beckinsale is outfitted in a full latex bodysuit any time she isn't stark naked. Not only does the skin-tight suit compliment her figure, it also gives her an air of extreme sexuality quite fitting of the vampire she portrays. If this film doesn't inspire you to give latex a try, hopefully this article will!

Bear in mind, you don't have to jump right in with both feet. You can start small, with latex accessories, and venture into the realm of lingerie and club wear as you grow more comfortable in this new second skin. It won't take you long to discover why so many men and women have developed actual latex fetishes, finding an intense sense of arousal in the material itself, its wearers, and even its scent. Will you and your lover become latex enthusiasts after just one night of experimentation? I can't make any promises, but I do think you'll find the experience quite satisfying if you're brave enough to give it a try!

Before you get started (and possibly frustrated), make sure you do some reading about How to Wear and Care for Your Latex Clothing. These pointers will help you get into latex while avoiding any potentially "sticky" situations!

Now, let's get on with the fun!

Accessorize with Latex

Whether latex has always been a staple of your wardrobe or you're just getting started, it never hurts to have some tried-and-true accessories in your collection. If you're going out for the evening and want to add some sex appeal to a basic outfit, latex gloves or gauntlets look great with strappy (or strapless) shirts. Latex stockings pair well with short or medium length skirts, keeping your legs warm (a big plus in the winter) without compromising the sexy look of your long, lanky assets. Since wearing latex can be a little daunting at the outset, requiring sometimes serious maneuvering to slip it on, starting small is the perfect way to begin. You needn't worry about being seen as a newbie or a coward, either. The bold, confident appearance conveyed by latex is simply irresistible, so rest assured that even taken in small doses, it can go a long way toward showing off your vivacious vixen side.

Latex Lingerie -- A Second-Skin for Staying In

Maybe you've decided to try out latex, but you aren't yet ready to make your new fetish known to the public. Maybe you're concerned that latex isn't going to look as flattering on you as it does in the movies. Or maybe you already love latex club wear and want to incorporate more of the sexy material into your bedroom wardrobe. No matter how new or experienced you are, adding some latex lingerie to your collection is a terrific way to experiment with smooth sensations, clothing bondage, and near-nudity. You can start by dressing up for yourself, getting comfortable in your new, erotic skin and discovering how the fabric looks and feels on your own body. Then when you're ready, put on a private fashion show for your lover. He or she will certainly delight in being an attentive and encouraging member of your audience.

A latex bra and pair of panties are perfect for introducing yourself and your partner to your new fashion trend. These are comfortable enough to be worn under your clothes so that you can get a feel for latex luxury all day long. Wear them to the office to make your work day more interesting, or save them for a special date that's bound to end in an intimate encounter. At the end of the day, you can surprise your partner with your little secret and see what kind of surprises he has in store for you.

Of course, latex lingerie isn't made for women alone. Us girls may have more options to choose from, which is an unfortunate but common fashion problem no matter what sort of trend you're eying. Latex or lace, jeans or jammies, skirts and slacks, our wardrobe choices are simply more diverse. But don't despair, guys! Men can get in on the action with bold, baring-all undies or sheaths for their favorite swords. These skin-tight choices give them the same sexy appeal as their female counterparts, and are about as easy to wear.

Bondage Clothes -- Latex for Going Out

Often viewed as an aspect of bondage and seen as visually arousing for the same reason, entire latex ensembles are popular in clubs and as costumes. Once again, ladies have a wide array of options from which to choose. Dresses, brightly colored mini-skirts, crop tops, and hot pants are just a few of the possibilities that will enable you to wear your latex more publicly. Men can make a bold statement with chest baring vests or wrap their packages in second-skin Bermuda shorts. Though you'll need to know more about latex wear and care in order to thoroughly enjoy these garments, none of them are complicated enough to prevent you from becoming a latex lover overnight. All it takes is a little bit of old fashioned, adventurous spirit!

Create Your Own Latex Fashions

It wasn't easy, but in writing this article, I've managed to save the best for last.

In order to satisfy a growing number of inventive and unique latex enthusiasts, manufacturers have come out with Liquid Latex. Using this flour-like substance, you can paint your body into just about any style of clothing you can imagine. You have more color choices than ever, including yellow, purple, magenta, red, and blue, so you can use your own creativity to design an outfit that will flatter you from head to toe. Coordinate with your favorite pair of sexy shoes, or work with your partner to develop matching pieces of lingerie. Make a one-time wear outfit for a special occasion, or coat other pieces of clothing in Liquid Latex to create lasting results. Once it dries (a rather quick process), you can feel confident wearing your new clothes out for hours at a time.

Now's your chance, guys! Without the limits imposed by traditional latex clothing designers, you ingenious men can come up with your very own style and start loving the feel of latex as much as us girls do! I'm certain you'll be coming back for more.

Study Up for Spectacular Sex!

Stock your Library with Titillating Texts

While turning to the internet for answers can give you quick results, you'll find more detailed discussions about sex if you hit the books. For years, sexperts have been stocking our shelves with an astonishing number of tomes that cover every imagineable aspect of human sexuality, and now they're ready to start filling up your bedroom library as well!

It doesn't matter if you're in a relationship, on the prowl , or simply wanting to learn about something you've never tried. No matter what your situation, we've got a book that can help you explore, enhance, and excite your intimate encounters.

Educate Yourself for Better Sex

Even the most incredible lovers can benefit from adding a new trick or two to their routines once in awhile. Get out of a sexual rut, learn techniques that will help you improve your performance, and impress your partner (or future partners) with your prowess.

First, examine the areas in which you feel lacking. Once sex has become a standard aspect of your relationship, foreplay often falls by the wayside in a couple's rush to get down to business. If you feel as though you and your partner have allowed this critical and fulfilling part of your sex life to slide, get back on track with a collection called Foreplay Sex Games. With 1001 ideas that are sure to excite and intrigue both of you, this book is a surefire way to remind yourselves that sometimes, the pre-show entertainment is even better than the show itself!

Perhaps, like many couples, your sexual routine is as predictable as the tides. If you constantly find yourselves in the same positions (and could practically act out each move in your sleep), it's time for a change. Get some fresh ideas with sexpert Jessica Stewart's The Complete Guide to Sexual Positions, or create a stronger emotional and physical bond with the ancient art of tantric sex. Do you think your man would respond better to suggestions from his favorite porn stars? Read all about their favorite positions and get some naughty ideas of your own! No matter which book you pick up, you can promise yourself that you won't repeat your tired old routine ever again.

Maybe there is an area or two in which you feel personally lacking. Have no fear; it's never too late to improve upon the skills you already have. Learn how to give your female lover the most amazing oral orgasm she's ever had with tips and tricks from Dr. Kenneth Ray Stubbs, the author of an entire collection of sexual improvement books including The Clitoral Kiss. Trying to blow your man away -- literally? Get your hands on a copy of Tickle His Pickle, a light-hearted but informative look at the many ways to please a penis. You can even educate yourself on a matter they never covered in school -- penis enlargement. Learn what works (and what doesn't) so that you can make a big impression on your lover. A little book can go a long way!

Educate, Explore, and Experiment

Are their some sexual subjects you're just too shy to bring up to your friends and lovers? Do you wish someone could write you an "everything I always wanted to know but was afraid to ask" guide to the fetish of your fantasies? Chances are, they already have!

Maybe you've heard about bondage and discipline, but you just don't know where to get more information. Books like Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns will give you an introduction to the world of B&D/S&M. Find out if this is something you'd like to explore further, or help ease your partner into the fantasy world you already inhabit.

Books can be great tools to help your lover overcome any fears he or she may have about the adventures that arouse you. If you've already had positive experiences with anal sex, for instance, you may be eager to continue exploring this erogenous zone. Your partner, on the other hand, may be hesitant, and a well-written book like Tristan Taormino's The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women or Jack Morin's Anal Pleasure and Health could answer his or her questions and alleviate a lot of concerns.

Don't Just Have Sex, Make Love

Books can also help you make the most out of your relationship -- emotionally as well as physically. Your sex life may be satisfying and passionate, but connecting on a deeper level is important, too.

Learning more about your lover is a terrific first step toward that deeper connection. If you're involved in a relationship with a member of the opposite sex, you may sometimes find yourself wondering what planet spawned this strange creature! Get some insight on Mars and Venus from the renowned expert, John Gray, or get a different perspective from the light-hearted but insightful Goddess' Guide to Love.

The Library is Open

Ultimately, growing your sexual library will provide you with countless opportunities to enlarge everything from your penis to your sexual options to your romance. Expand your horizons with a little higher education, and the benefits will be enormous!

Sex Toys for Beginners

Maybe you're sexually inexperienced and looking for a way to get to know yourself better. Maybe you've been in a relationship for years and need a way to bring back some of the fun and excitement you felt when you were first dating. Maybe you've just been too shy to think about venturing into an adult store -- the selection can be kind of intimidating if you don't know what you'd like to buy. No matter what your situation, you've come to the right place. The Internet is a great source for sexy playthings. Where else can you can enjoy browsing through a massive selection of toys in the privacy of your own home?

Of course, having an enormous collection at your fingertips won't do you any good if you have no idea where to begin! Rest assured that by the time you finish reading this article, you'll be armed with information and ready to get down to business with some serious shopping.

Toys for Solo Sex Fun

If you're totally new to both sex and sex toys, chances are you would do best to shop for yourself before looking into couples' playthings. After all, once you have the opportunity to get acquainted with your own body, preferences, and intimate pleasures, you can share your newfound carnal knowledge with your lover.

For women, the most commonly chosen starter toy is a basic vibrator. These come in a variety of fun colors, as well as different textures so that you can feel out what suits you best. Explore your body with a traditional, rigid vibe or a softer toy that imitates the penis as closely as possible. Nearly every vibrator comes equipped with multiple speed controls so that you can experience a variety of sensations. Most importantly, they are sized for your comfort. You won't be able to enjoy your experiments if you're overwhelmed by the size of your vibe, nor if you're completely unimpressed! All of the features that go into the makeup of a standard vibrator will help you to discover what works for you and your body

Men, don't feel left out. There are some terrific solo sex toys on the market for you, too. Masturbation toys come in the shape of mouths, vaginas, and anuses so that you can get a feel for all kinds of sexual experiences in the privacy of your own bedroom. Practicing on these toys is not only satisfying for you, it's also a great way to increase your sexual stamina and improve your performance for the benefit of your partner.

Couples' Toys: Double Your Pleasure

If you've long since grown accustomed to your own kinky preferences, now would be a great time to introduce a quality sex toy into your relationship. It can't hurt -- in fact, it can only serve to enhance the intimacy between you and your lover and give you both more intense pleasure in bed.

Set aside an evening (or a whole weekend) to explore new fantasies with your partner. An erotic game like Exploring Ultimate Fantasies can help the two of you discuss, in great detail, the types of scenarios that turn you on. You'll even get a chance to practice on each other with an elaborate tool kit.

Time to Clean Up!

After you've had your fun with your new toys, it's important for you to clean up after yourself. There are a variety of sex toy cleaners on the market that will help keep your collection as happy as it keeps you! It only takes a few moments to keep your favorite things in good condition, keeping you and your lover in good health as well.

You may also want to invest in a set of personal wipes so that you can clean yourself up after sex or after playing with your adult toys. Scented and convenient for travel, unexpected flings, and everyday use, you'll want to have a box of these wipes next to your bed to avoid those uncomfortable and disruptive runs to the bathroom. Wouldn't you rather be snuggling up to your lover instead?

Now that you've had your fun and cleaned up yourself and your toys, you'll be all set to play again tomorrow! Best of all, you'll have the experience necessary to shop for even more fun and exciting things to add to your collection.

Fun with Condoms

Find the Right Fit One of the most important things you can do to make sheathed sex more satisfying is to ensure that the condom you're wearing fits properly. Most products are designed to fit the average penis, but if you happen to be gifted with a larger member, it's worth investing in a bigger raincoat for your not-so-little buddy. A condom that is too small will be difficult to put on, making a frequently awkward moment even more uncomfortable. If you can, experiment with a few different brands and sizes to find one that fits more loosely. This will allow the condom to move up and down over your penis as you thrust, giving you sensations that are as close to skin-on-skin contact as possible. Enhance Your Pleasure with Specialty Condoms In addition to finding the right fit, you can also use specially designed condoms to make your encounter more fulfilling and more fun. For example, a flavored condom can put a delightfully delicious twist on oral sex. Surprise your lover by slipping on a taste of something you know she enjoys, like banana or cola. Her pleasure is sure to translate into your pleasure when she realizes that each luscious lick reminds her of a sweet treat. Glow-in-the-dark condoms also offer a fun alternative to traditional products. Turn your penis into a beacon of light, guiding your lover right to your favorite pleasure zone even on the darkest night. Use your imagination -- hide in a dark room and wait for your partner to find you, or snuggle under the covers with nothing but your glow worm to direct her to your erogenous zone. These types of condoms may be wildly inappropriate if you're planning a serious and romantic evening, but they make a great ice-breaker for new lovers and put a humorous spin on sex between light-hearted partners. Another type of condom designed with fun in mind is the french tickler. With tiny, flexible pieces of latex surrounding the head of the condom, ticklers provide added stimulation for your lover. Unfortunately, these are considered novelty items only, and are not as effective in preventing STDs as traditional condoms. Add-Ons that Make Condoms Fun If specialty condoms don't tickle your fancy, you can always seek out additional enhancements to make your experience with safe sex a more satisfying one. Water-based lubricants can be exceptionally effective, even when using lubricated condoms. Because you're dealing with skin rubbing on latex instead of more skin, it's important to use a generous amount of lube. There's nothing more uncomfortable than sex with a dry condom! You can even experiment with fun and funky types of lubricant to personalize your experience. Choose from a wide array of flavors (great for oral sex), or indulge in anal lubricant for your personal comfort during rear-entry encounters. Cock rings and clitoral stimulators can also be used with condoms. Both of these types of toys can help to enhance the erotic sensations that are weakened when your penis goes undercover. You can find great products that slip down easily over the sheathed penis, maintaining your erection and offering added stimulation for your lover. Vibrating models, as well as rings with attached beads, ticklers, and even tassels are a great way to take the attention off the condom and focus it on all the sensual treats your toys have to offer. The bottom line is that you can make safe sex, fun sex. With the right attitude, and the right toys, you may even find that condoms can be pleasureable!

So You Never Had An Orgasm?

Sex Toys May Be the Answer

Getting to Know Your Sexual Preferences

You can't teach your lover to please you if you're unsure of how to please yourself. Even if your partner manages to give you an orgasm, you'll get far more pleasure out of it if you can recognize the signs that it's coming and prepare yourself to enjoy every second of it. The last thing you want is to be left wondering, "What just happened?"

That's why I recommend investing in an awesome solo sex toy like a rabbit vibrator. Of course, experimenting manually is an excellent start, giving you the opportunity to get to know the intimate parts of your body with nothing other than your fingertips. Unfortunately, if you're hoping to have an orgasm from penetrative sex, you'll need to do better than that. A good vibrator or realistic dildo can help you to determine the most satisfying angles and sexual positions for pleasurable penetration.

Practice, practice, practice! Once you've mastered the art of orgasm all on your own, you'll be able to direct future partners to all your favorite places.

Boosting Your Lover's Performance

Hours and hours of solo sex practice may not be quite enough to achieve the orgasm you want once another person becomes part of the equation. Maybe you've found some terrific pleasure spots on your own, and you're having difficulty getting your partner to find his way there. It's okay to admit that he needs a little assistance -- a good lover is eager to please and will welcome your suggestions, as long as you offer them in a helpful, uncritical manner.

First, figure out what he's missing. If your solo journeys led you to the land of the g-spot, and you're eager to repeat the experience with your lover, a penis extension may be your new best friend. Designed with the exact curve needed to reach your g-spot, these toys can help you enjoy penetration with a partner more than you ever have before. Perhaps you require constant (or at least consistent) clitoral stimulation in order to produce an orgasm. You're not alone! You and your lover might both feel more satisfied once you invest in a targeted vibe for your clit. There are several small, hands-free vibrators that a woman can wear while still enjoying vaginal penetration. You may even discover that simultaneous orgasms aren't as elusive (nor as overrated) as you've heard!

With open lines of communication and the right accessories, the ultimate in sexual satisfaction is yours for the taking!